The Universal Beliefs in REBT or CBT

Believe it or not, it's up to you. If that is your belief, I won't bother to dispute yours this time.

There go the saying that the worst day fishing is better than the best day at work. You probadly forget everything when you are floating around in a dinghy out in the open sea waiting for the snappers to report to you......and time flies by......who cares..

This 38 cm snappers gave me a big fight before it came aboard and finally into my wok.

What you need to do before conducting a counselling session is exactly what you should prepare before going out to sea for a fishing therapy session. It takes you about 15 minutes to get this dinghy inflated ready for action.

For those of you who are practising REBT or CBT out there, perhaps the following information can give you a closer step to establish the believing system that your clients might have and subsequently for you to dispute at ease to achieve your objectives.

Good luck. Anyone ready for fishing therapy in NZ ? Sound fishy.......eh !

Counsellor's favourite - 6 Thoughts 4 Questions

Lately I attended a CBT workshop in NZ and was introduced to "thework". It was written by Byron Kathleen Reid of USA. In "thework" workshop, she designed four questions that can probadly change one's life. The Work of Byron Katie is a way to identify and question the thoughts that cause all of the suffering in the world. It is a way to find peace with yourself and with the world. The old, the young, the sick, the well, the educated, the uneducated—anyone with an open mind can do this Work.

Attached please find the work sheet and manual used to do the work.

I especially like the part of Turn Around. We always judge on others and seldom think of how other judge on us. Byron Katie's approach brings a new insight to my life.

Happiness can come from many sources, but the strongest and most important source is from within.

NZ FunTAsea 2010

My April 2010 - 20 days vacation in NZ is full of FUN, THRILL and ADVENTURE in the sea. The best trip so far since 2000. Able to meet two former classmates after 39 years and the feeling of getting together again in a strange land is really wonderful.

My university lecturer friend Si Eng likes to fish. He owns 3 kayaks. To me, the kayak is just too flimsy to go out in the sea, Further more I am too old to paddle.

So we look for bigger toys ...........rubber dinghies powered by outboard engines.

During the week ends, I spend some fun time with my grand daughter Baby Tifa at Auckland Sunday Market.

Visiting authentic cuisines outlets together with old buddies after the fishing trips almost become a daily routine .

And then what a day to remember !

24 April 2010 Auckland : On this very day, I pulled out 5 snappers from the sea. 4 under size and one went into my wok.The 1st time ever I caught a fish with legal size in NZ waters.

When the day is done, take a leisure stroll around the Mission Bay, Auckland's millionaire suburb

Now I believe that the worst day fishing is better than the best day at work !

KIA ORA - AUCKLAND NZ

Arrived in Auckland on the 13 April for a 20 days vacation. Family reunion, fishing, meeting old friends and sights seeing are my main agenda in NZ.

People always ask what is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It's The 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return. Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.

Without a doubt, the 403 reunion of 1971 classmates at Sibu have somehow created a sort of synergistically theraputic effect which.spices up our lives where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. The NZ FunTAsea reunion demonstrates how determination of what one can do to make the relationship work.

To James and me, we admire the sincerity and hospitality of our senior mentor Si Eng here in Auckland. He has invested a huge sum of money to make sure that his old classmates enjoy their stay in NZ. We really thank him for the so many first hand kiwi encounters during these few days. The programme code named FUNTAsea – FUNS, THRILLS & ADVENTURES ON THE SEA pushed us to the climax. We were shouting with joys.because of the kind of feeling, sensation, satisfaction and achievements that we have never experienced before.

We went out to the sea twice. Boating and fishing at different localities, 120 km and 50 km away from Si Eng’s residence respectively during the two days. The first trip is more experimental and trial orientated, being new to everything including Si Eng. It took us almost an hour to assemble the dinghy. The outboard engine did not cooperate well with us cos we choked it with too much petrol. Eventually we were out on the sea. The snappers really gave a warm welcome to Hua Kiong and made friends with him. He has to let go so many under sized catches. However, two of them eventually ended up in my wok. I had no luck but busy putting on new baits. Si Eng supervised us with respect and gave expertise demonstration from time to time.

We moved out to the sea in the dark the next morning. Sitting at the bow, James was wondering why all in a sudden he was in this part of the world, cruising in a flimsy but stable dinghy. He began to realize how difficult for Si Eng to paddle his kayak across these stretches of waters during his fishing trip. Anyway, it was my day. I caught 5 snappers but only one with legal size 29 cm (min 27 cm ). Again James had the biggest catch measuring 34 cm. It seemed that the snappersare trying to avoid Si Eng, knowing very well he is not a good playmate

As hungry Sinners, James insisted that we went for oysters. Si Eng was too holy to join us. The package was foreigners. The course is so nice and the tastes were beyond description.

IPG ON PRESS

I am the official IPG publicity officer since Januari 2008.

For optimum productivity, I align myself with my boss and institute's goals and values and making the organisation priorities my priorities. I show respect and loyalty to my boss and speak well of him to others. I also show my boss and co-workers that i have their best interests at heart by being empathetic and offering to help out when they need it. And putting the institution on newspaper is a sure way to boost the spirit of the IPG community.

MR. NICHOLAS UGUL URGES TEACHERS TO UPGRADE THEIR QUALITIES
AND DEDICATED WHOLE-HEARTEDLY IN TEACHING

BINTANGOR 22 JAN : Teaching is one of the most demanding professions today because of the practitioners necessities. The introduction of the Standard Curriculum for Primary schools next year will require teachers to be even more creative and innovative in giving quality education to the pupils. Mr. Nicholas Ugul, Director of Teacher Education Institute Rajang Campus Bintangor told the lecturers and students here during the closing ceremony of the Orientation Week for the KPLI January 2010 intake.

Recognised the one in blue ?

Out of a total of 1473 new students in the country, 40 of them reported themselves at Rajang Campus.


The new intakes posed with ultimate discipline for me.


Mr. Nicholas said that dedicated teachers ought to be intrinsically and altruistically motivated. They should be full of enthusiasm with plentiful of desire to make a difference in the lives of young people. They must possess a caring attitude and a love of continuous learning to upgrade oneself from time to time.

My boss delivered his speech

He added that teachers play a very critical role in nurturing the spirit of innovation, the passion in learning in our youngs and grooming them into profound individuals. As such students should acquire proper knowledge of the curriculum, classroom management techniques and teaching skills. They need to align their mind set to the standards of Malaysia teachers so that they can function properly in schools.

Persembahan daripada pelajar baharu

Besides the registration of the new students, the week long orientation course aimed to help the fresh intakes, soften the start of their one year of studies and their new encounter with academic life in the new campus. The main objectives include the familiarization with various interdisciplinary units, the organizational system, and the institute facilities. Secondly, getting to know fellow students and lecturers while creating a supportive atmosphere before the start of the academic year. And finally, acquiring some basic interactive skills and certain academic terminology through dynamic group activities and talks from professionals.

Take a snap for thr IP camera man.
Tuan Hj Mat Akhir, the Assistant Director of the campus earlier launched the opening ceremony of the week long orientation programme.

Over to you. From the students representative to the institute.

WORK TILL THE LAST DAY ?

Aha….Life in IPG continue rocking and rolling on as usual while I am counting my days …..

Time flies. Thanks God after almost 3 years, I am still in one piece listening to clients, rendering health screening services and continue with the ever popular sensational projects which brought happiness, togetherness and sense of achievements to many co-workers who are directly or indirectly involved.

Januari 2010 is action packed. My clients include Pengarah, Timbalan Pengarah, Staf akademik, Staf sokongan dan pelajar institute.

Besides counseling and consultation services, blood pressure screening and blood sugar test are getting popular among the students. But most of all, those so called projects brought even more rewarding psychological impact to many campus community whose sense of pride would easily complement the outcome of any formal counseling session …….’cos they are tangible and involve participation and hands on. In many cases, the participants are the ones who lack confidence, but they contribute alternatives, they make chooses and work for the projects.

Among the projects :

1. Billboard : Let’s Change For The Best

2. Backdrop : Majlis Perasiman Minggu Pengurusan Pelajar Baharu KPLI Ambilan Januari 2010




3. Backdrop : Majlis Penutupan Minggu Pengurusan Pelajar Baharu KPLI Ambilan Januari 2010




4. Poster : 4 jenis guru ( Proaktif, Reaktif, Pasif, Dekoratif )


5. Carta Fungsi Organisasi IPG Kampus Rajang . I am to the left of Timbalan Pengarah.

6. Papan Info Aktiviti Mingguan ( Temporary )

7. Billboard : Who dares to teach must never cease to learn.

Some staff shared their feelings with me saying that their hard work over the years had gone unnoticed by the management. But fortunately most of their products can be traced across the IP.

Next week I will start a corner featuring Personaliti Kampus. Hopefully it will bring some light to the authority concerned and happiness to the staff involved.

Joy is found when giving joy to others. Be altruisitic.

LET'S CHANGE FOR THE BEST

Hi Everbody !Going for the best this year ? If the answer is positive, then let’s ask ourself first why didn’t we go for it in 2009 and years before. Cos we will never become who we want to be by remaining who we are !

YEAH ! Thinking our way to change. The most successful teacher is the one who holds onto the old just as long as it is good, and grabs the new just as soon as it is better. Change nourishes growth.Change is available to everyone but only comes to fruition for those who pursue it mindfully and engage it earnestly. Change will never result from thinking alone - you must take action.Only you can move you !Only you can live you !Only you can change you !Our future is all about the actions we take and the choices we make! We need to change our attitudes, our behaviour first then only we can go for the best !

Back in action after a brief break. Just in time to put up a New Year Resolution for the assembly to support my boss premier speech calling the IP community to discard all the negatives and change to be more proactive in 2010. All for the betterment of rakyat while fulfilling the national aspiration.

Congratulations to Roy for initiating to put the IPG counsellors on a new chapter in 2010. A very brave and challenging move.
Congratulations to En. Saharuddin on your new appointment. Good on you.
Gonna miss you two, Rahim and Faridah.

Salam Kasih Sayang to everyone.

Hi ! My Dear Friends.2009 is coming to an end. Be it a year of 'tropi' or 'mangkuk', just be happy and let it be.After the team building course, my staf sokongan here liked the 'tropi and mangkuk' so much that they insist to have the second round in the near future. As a reminder, they put up the 'tropi and mangkuk' on the Unit Kaunseling Notice board.

To the Tropi - Don't look up at Champion, be ONE !To the Mangkuk - Anda tidak kalah berada di bawah namun anda kalah jika anda tidak bangun semula.

Bulan mengambang di tengah dunia, 2010 bakal menjelma. Susun jari maaf dipinta, palukan semangat cetus usaha.

HAPPY NEW YEAR @ 2010