LET'S CHANGE FOR THE BEST

Hi Everbody !Going for the best this year ? If the answer is positive, then let’s ask ourself first why didn’t we go for it in 2009 and years before. Cos we will never become who we want to be by remaining who we are !

YEAH ! Thinking our way to change. The most successful teacher is the one who holds onto the old just as long as it is good, and grabs the new just as soon as it is better. Change nourishes growth.Change is available to everyone but only comes to fruition for those who pursue it mindfully and engage it earnestly. Change will never result from thinking alone - you must take action.Only you can move you !Only you can live you !Only you can change you !Our future is all about the actions we take and the choices we make! We need to change our attitudes, our behaviour first then only we can go for the best !

Back in action after a brief break. Just in time to put up a New Year Resolution for the assembly to support my boss premier speech calling the IP community to discard all the negatives and change to be more proactive in 2010. All for the betterment of rakyat while fulfilling the national aspiration.

Congratulations to Roy for initiating to put the IPG counsellors on a new chapter in 2010. A very brave and challenging move.
Congratulations to En. Saharuddin on your new appointment. Good on you.
Gonna miss you two, Rahim and Faridah.

Salam Kasih Sayang to everyone.

Hi ! My Dear Friends.2009 is coming to an end. Be it a year of 'tropi' or 'mangkuk', just be happy and let it be.After the team building course, my staf sokongan here liked the 'tropi and mangkuk' so much that they insist to have the second round in the near future. As a reminder, they put up the 'tropi and mangkuk' on the Unit Kaunseling Notice board.

To the Tropi - Don't look up at Champion, be ONE !To the Mangkuk - Anda tidak kalah berada di bawah namun anda kalah jika anda tidak bangun semula.

Bulan mengambang di tengah dunia, 2010 bakal menjelma. Susun jari maaf dipinta, palukan semangat cetus usaha.

HAPPY NEW YEAR @ 2010

HAPPY NEW YEARS BUDDIES !

Together with my two assistants, Siti and Mazlina

• Last week I had a heart-to-heart session with 30 Federal Government Officers at a renown hotel in Sibu. My slot is part of a course namely “PENGURUSAN KENDIRI DAN MEMBINA BUDAYA KERJA CEMERLANG DALAM ORGANISASI ”.

• Instead of a conventional 3 hours ceramah, I designed my slot into multi-diciplinary sessions which incorporated brain storming, reflections, team work, sharings, games , dynamic groups discussion, confession dan singing etc. The purpose is stress free but hands on and experiential learnings aim to upgrade oneself in terms of knowledge, skills and attitude corrections.

• The session started with an animated powerpoint showing the US Bombers dropping atomic bombs at Hiroshima and Nagasaki which reduced them into mere rubble. Then after 30 years, the two cities developed to be the two most modern cities in Japan. We admire and salute the the Japanese of their sheer hard work and determination.

• Then back home in Malaysia in the 80s. Tun Dr. Mahathir was not happy with the rakyat performance. Being contradict to our Japanese counterparts whose loyalty to their orgainsation is so dominant that it stimulated the then Prime Minister to launch the “Look East Policy “ in 1982. Then came the campaign “Bersih, cekap dan Amanah”, “Kepimpinan Melalui Tauladan”, “Wawasan 2020”. Pak Lah arrived with “Plan Integriti Nasional” in 2004. Now and then thouands of courses were conducted on Etika Kerja ; Penerapan Nilai Islam ; Budaya Kerja Cemerlang ; Persyarikatan Malaysia ;Tonggak 12 ;
Program Nilai Murni ; Pusingan Tempat Kerja ; Pejabat
Perkhidmatan Pelanggan dan lain-lain.

• High expectations were raised when Bersih, Cekap and Amanah was introduced in 1982. But almost three decades later, the civil service is still stuck in a quagmire of inefficiency and corruption.

• Why ? Why ? Why ? The participants put their heads together digging for the answers. What caused the integrity deterioration among the Malaysians ? We discussed and checked on individuals, leaders, systems and procedures. We focused on results. Results are everything.

• A general conclusion suggested that disgusting attitude “ Kepentingan diri didahulukan, Wang Ringgit diutamakan !” seemed to be the main culprit.

• The participants agreed that if one keeps on doing what he is doing, he will keep getting what he is getting. So he needs to change his behaviour. Focus on performance and look for corresponding results.

• The all fun-laughters-high ESQ slot ended with an Integrity Pledge that read:

If you make a commitment – Honor it
If you make a promise – Keep it
If you set a goal – Achieve it

If my sharing of this sounds sensitive to any one of you, I BEG FOR YOUR PARDON. In order to get a better life, we need to design one. Unfortunately many of us spend more time and energy on our grocery list then we do planning our future. Sorry buddies.

BYE-BYE BUDDIES. BYE-BYE 2009
READY FOR 2010 RESOLUTIONS CHALLENGE ?

The Purpose of Life is a Life of Purpose

Time flies. Santa Claus is dancing again to entertain the crowd at shopping lots. Christmas is just around the corner.

December means holiday to many. But as Ketua Unit Kaunseling IPG Kampus Rajang Sarawak, commitment, joys and responsiblities are the three things that gonna rock me towards the end of 2009. Yet to find some days for holidays.

I boarded the institute bus for a 340 km 7 hours south west bound trip to the Cat City on the 4th of December.

Without a doubt, the 3 days 2 nights Team Building Course for 36 IPG Kampus Rajang supporting staff at Merdeka Palace Kuching was a thrill to all the participants. Many PERASA tools were being borrowed, modified and deployed to maximise the achievement of team work.

The course was completely simulated activities based, incorporated with lot of philosophies of life especially in the context of team work among co-workers in an organisation.




Laughters echoed in the air through the hall way. Salam semut, Tabik monyet, Gerai Runcit Merdeka, Group Battle-Cries, Mission Impossible, Si Adikku Yang Manis, The number Games, Penghargaan Epal, Manitoku Sayang, Jom SMS, Itik Pulang Petang, Pembentangan Kumpulan, nyanyian, tarian, Putera-Puteri Merdeka are some of the activities that had captivated the hearts and souls of many. Some even cried knowing very well that a co-worker who had not been readily accepted by others for certain reasons all these years but proved to be someone who is more alert than themselves during the course.

Gerai Runcit Satu Malaysia menjual barang-barang yang telah ditetapkan oleh Datuk Bandar. Participants were entrusted to collect those items while making an excursion to Sirikin, a village next to the Indonesia which offer a variety range of product at bargaining price, Antaranya adalah seluar dalam lelaki, bra, rambut palsu dll....

Please look for the trophy, score sheet and the mangkuk on the wall. All team members worked together to chip in marks for their respective teams.

Among the many songs sung during the course was the Theme Song Let's Work Together. The powerpoints portrayed all the participants' faces with radiant smiles. Other songs with lyrics were all supported by self directed animated powerpoints were Kasih Sayang, Words, I can see clearly now, You raised me up, Top of the World, Teman Sejati, Uma Paloma Blanca and others.

An one week affair 7th-13th December 2009 marked the 2009 Sarikei Pineapple Festival. Among the many activities held was the roadshows by academic and professional institutions in the country. IPG Kampus Rajang putted up a super stall. As Ketua Unit Kaunseling, my job was to coordinate with the Ketua Jabatan Sains Sosial to design the booth and prepared all the exhibits.




The lady sat next to me was a Datin who wanted so much to be part of the team. You see how I work ! Quality that's.

TO BE OR NOT TO BE

I joined IPGM Kampus Rajang in April 2007 and found that she had an extremely low publicity rate among the peoples in Sarawak when compared to the other 3 teachers institutes in Kuching and Miri.

As such, being the head of the Counselling Unit, i vowed to promote IPR especially to the students who are interested in teaching. A humble beginning with an one-page publication in Utusan Borneo which high lighted the campus Visual Art Exhibition two and half years ago brought joys and motivation to the trainees and staff alike. With the help of my worthy press friends, I started to contribute articles for press release. More news coverage which featured events held in the campus were published from time to time.

Entrusted by the campus director, I was appointed to head the campus Publicity Committee in January 2008. Now i have 116 newspaper cuttings to my credit.

Last Wednesday 21 October, once again I was invited to witness the annual visual art exhibition. During the opening ceremony, the Director mentioned a point which brought back my memory, the same point that he touched on two and half years ago that gone unnoticed..........

There goes the news to the local press.....

DELIGHTFUL EXPRESSIONS
Annual Visual Art Exhibition by PISMP Students
IPGM Kampus Rajang, Bintangor
Wednesday, 21 October, 2009

BINTANGOR: The Director of Teacher Education Institute Rajang Campus, En. Nicholas Ugul challenged the lecturers and trainees here to be more adventurous and prepared themselves for joint exhibitions with the local artists in the state outside the campus in the near future.

He was addressing to a crowd of 50 staff and students who gathered at the campus visual art premises witnessing the opening ceremony of Delightful Expressions, an annual Visual Art event which features creative artifacts produced by the trainees. 70 pieces of distinguish art work in different media were displayed during the fair. The exhibits consisted of paintings, printings, weaving, scupltures, mobiles, stabiles, traditional crafts, carvings and folios.

“ It gives me great pleasure to be invited to open this exhibition of the work of young and very talented artists. We see once again that art has no borders and brings people of different races and social background together. Art not only helps people of different background to learn and appreciate one other, it also gives people a chance to express themselves without words”.

Nicholas futher emphasized that visual art activites provide our students with a broad-based educational experience by nurturing their creativity and imagination. It allows them to see things from a different perspective and viewpoint, and encourages critical thinking. It promotes aesthetic inspiration, enhances self-expression and contributes to the development of social skills, such as building confidence.

About 40 students from nearby secondary schools turned up to witness the exhibition.

TREATMENT OF GID

ASSESSMENT & TREATMENT OF GENDER IDENTITY DISORDER
( Part 2 )

SIGNS, SYMPTOMS AND COMPICATIONS

GIRLS

1. Display intense negative reactions to parental expectations.
2. Attempts not to wear dresses or other feminine attire.
3. Prefer boy's clothing and short hair.
4. Often misidentified by strangers as boys.
5. May ask to be called a boy's name.
6. Their fantasy heroes are most often powerful male figures.
7. Prefer boys as playmates.
8. Like sports,rough-and-tumble play and traditional boyhood games.
9.Show little interest in dolls or any form of feminine dress up or role-play activity.
10.May occasionally refuse to urinate in a sitting position.
11.May claim that she has or will grow a penis.
12.May claim not want to grow breasts or menstruate.
13.May assert that she will grow up to be a man.

ADULTS

1. Preoccupied with their wish to live as a member of the other sex.
2. Possess an intense desire to adopt the social role of the other sex.
3.Manifested to acquire the physical appearance of the other sex through hormonal or surgical manipulation.
4.Adopt the behavior,dress, and mannerisms of the other sex.
5. Spend much time cross-dressed and working on the appearance of being
the other sex.
6.Many attempt to pass in public as the other sex.
7. Desire to live as a person of the opposite sex
8. Believe that he or she was born the wrong sex
9. Wish to be rid of their own genitals
10. Dress like the opposite sex
11. Be heterosexual or homosexual
12. Feel isolated
13. Be depressed
14. Be withdrawn
15. Have low self-esteem
Wow ! So cute !
TREATMENT

When an individual begins to question and feel persistent dissatisfaction with his or her gender identity, no matter at what age, therapy ( psychological, endocrine or surgical ) should begin.
*Untreated gender identity disorders may manifest in associated disorders and emotional distress that can interfere with the individual's ability to function socially at school and work or in relationships.
*Treatment helps a patient achieve and maintain a healthy and stable life

1. SENTENCE PROJECTION TEST ( Cognitive Behavioural Therapy )

How do you hurt your family by being transsexual ?
How is your sexuality hurt your spouse ?
What are the risks being one ?
Doing treatment – Pro and Cons
Not doing treatment p- Pro and Cons

2. FAMILY AND INDIVIDUAL COUNSELLING

Social and physical intervension
Self-esteem building
Treatment of associated complications
Behavioural counseling
Behavioral rehearsal with in vivo training sessions
Teaching about the difference between men and women.

3. CLINICAL TREATMENT

Girlish man – Inject more male hormone.
Surgical operation – sex change
Hi . Hi...... I like it !
4. DECISION METRICS -

To be transsexual – Benefit and cost incurred for sex change
Not to be transsexual – Benefits and cost of treatment

5. FATHER – SON INTERACTION PROGRAMME

Athletic skill training.
Male role models if fathers are not available to young boys,
Received appropriate sex education in either the home or in counseling sessions



WHAT CAN BE DONE TO PREVENT THE CONDITION?

There is no known prevention for gender identity disorder.

WHAT ARE THE LONG-TERM EFFECTS OF THE CONDITION?

• A person with gender identity disorder is usually isolated.
• Isolation and ostracism adds to the low esteem.
• More prone to suicide atempts
• Increase risk of alcohol abuse, drug abuse, depression and anxiety disorder.


That's all for the time being.
PowerPoints available but too big the file to be sent using email.

ASSESSMENT OF GID

3 hari 2 malam KUK IPGM berkampung di Concorde Inn, Sepang, Selangor.
Berkursus bagaimana menilai dan merawati mereka yang kecelaruan identiti gender.
Dikendalikan oleh psychologist yang bertauliah Dato' Dr. Mohd Saat Baki.
Banyak bergurau tentang seks tetapi tidak menyakitkan minda dan hati.
Istilah-istilah perubatan yang digunakan sangat sangat mengelirukan.
Mengapa pula pelbagai ragam jenis manusia yang bermasalah tuhan ciptakan ?

1. UNDERSTAND THE ISSUE

3 components that make up gender identity:

* Sexual orientation,
* Behavior and mannerism preferences, and
* Core gender identity (that gut feeling we have about the gender we identify with).

2. THE ISSUE

Boys will be boys. Girls will be girls.

• What happens when boys want to be girls ?
• Or girls want to be boys?

3. IN REALITY….

* Some people feel that their body does not match who they are on the inside.
* Some choose to present themselves as the gender they identify with through clothing and

cosmetics.
* Others change their physical appearance through hormones and surgery.

This is called Gender Idenitity Disorder (GID ) or otherwise known as

• gender identity confusion,
• gender dysphoria,
• transgenderism and
• transsexualism.

4. WHAT IS GENDER IDENTITY DISORDER (GID) ?

GID is one in which a person wants to be the opposite sex.

GID may manifest in children, adolescents or adults, and appears more frequently in males than in females.

5. WHAT ARE THE CAUSES ?

Some theories suggest the disorder may be caused by:

• chromosomal abnormality
• imbalances in hormones
• problems with early parent-child bonding
• harmful child-rearing practices

Hi ! I am actually a boy.

6. ASSOCIATED DESCRIPTIVE FEATURES AND MENTAL DISORDERS

• Many individuals with GID become socially isolated.
• Isolation and ostracism contribute to low self esteem and may lead to school aversion or

dropping out of school.
• Peer ostracism and teasing are especially common sequelae for boys with the disorder.
• Boys with GID often show marked feminine mannerisms and speech patterns.
• Children with GID may develop symptoms of depression, generalized anxiety and separation

anxiety disorder.
• Adolescents may be at risk for depression, suicidal thoughts or suicide attempts.
• In adults, anxiety and depressive symptoms may be present. Some adult males have a history

of Transvestic Fetishism as well as other paraphilias.

7. SIGNS, SYMPTOMS AND RISK

BOYS

1.Marked preoccupation with traditionally feminine activities.
2.A preference for dressing in girls' or womens' clothes.
3.A strong attraction for the stereotypical games and pastimes of girls.
4.Enjoy playing house,drawing pictures of beautiful girls and princess.
5.Barbie dolls, are often their favorite toys,
6.Girls are their preferred playmates.
7.When playing house, these boys role-play female figures ( mothers )
8.Preoccupied with female fantasy figures.
9.Watching television or videos of their favorite female stars.
10.Avoid rough-and-tumble play and competitive sports.
11.Have little interest in cars and trucks or other no-aggressive boy's toys.
12.Express a wish to be a girl.
13.Assert that they will grow up to be a woman.
14. May insist on sitting to urinate.
15. Pretend not to have a penis by pushing it in between their legs.
16. May state that they find their penis or testes disgusting,that they want to
remove them.
17. Wish to have a vagina.

TO BE CONTINUED.............

• LELAKI LEMBUT – SATU PENGENALAN
  
  Isu Lelaki Lembut telah dibangkitkan dalam Mesyuarat Kaunselor Organisasi dan Kaunselor HEP Institut Pendidikan Guru Malaysia pada 20-22 April 2009 di Hotel Royale Bintang, Seremban. Didapati bahawa ada wujudnya personaliti seumpama itu bukan sahaja di IPGM bahkan juga di banyak institusi lain termasuk sekolah-sekolah di seluruh negara. Ekoran daripada itu KPM pula mengambil tindakan untuk mendapatkan data bagi jenis kes yang berkenaan dan seterusnya mengenalpasti strategi untuk menolong mereka agar isu kecelaruan identiti gender ini tidak akan menjadikan satu lagi masalah sosial di negara kita.
  
  Kebetulan juga pada pertengahan Julai yang lalu, Pn. Normazwin bte Yahya daripada Bahagian Psikologi dan Kaunseling, Putrajaya telah pun menyampaikan maklumat tentang Lelaki Lembut kepada para kaunselor organisasi IPGM di Bayu Beach Resort,Port Dickson, NS. Atas permintaan ramai rakan guru bimbingan dan kaunseling di Sarawak, saya dengan sukacitanya upload maklumat tersebut untuk pengetahuan semua.
  
  DEFINISI
  


• Kecelaruan identiti gender (gender identity disorder – GID) didefinisikan sebagai konflik individu terhadap fizikal sebenar dirinya dengan identifikasi terhadap dirinya sendiri.


• Contohnya seseorang itu dari segi fizikalnya atau dilahirkan sebagai seorang lelaki tetapi mempunyai perasaan dan bertingkahlaku seperti seorang perempuan

Kecelaruan identiti gender tidak boleh disamakan dengan homoseksual.

PENYEBAB

Kemungkinan disebabkan hormon dalam tubuh seseorang, gen dan faktor persekitaran umpamanya didikan keluarga mungkin jadi salah satu penyumbang kepada permasalahan ini

SIMPTOM

KANAK-KANAK

• jijik alat sulit mereka sendiri


• tidak diterima oleh rakan sebaya yang sama gender


• percaya bahawa apabila besar nanti, akan jadi gender yang berlainan


• mengalami tekanan atau anxiety


• menyatakan mereka mahu menjadi gender yang berlainan

DEWASA

• berpakaian seperti berlainan jantina


• merasa kesepian


• mengalami kemurungan atau anxiety


• mahu menjadi seperti individu yang berlainan gender


• mengharap agar alat sulitnya dapat dibuang
  

SAMADA KANAK-KANAK DAN DEWASA :

• memperlihatkan kebiasaan yang dilakukan oleh


• gender yang berlawanan


• menarik diri dari interaksi sosial
  

TANDA-TANDA

• merasakan bahawa mereka berada di dalam badan gender yang “salah”


• Perasaan yang dirasakan ini mestilah dalam tempoh dua tahun untuk di diagnos.


• Sejarah diri dan penilaian psikatrik boleh mengesahkan kehendak kekal untuk menjadi gender yang berlawanan
  

KOMPLIKASI :

• Kemurungan atau anxiety


• Distress emosi


• Merasa keseorangan


• Konsep kendiri yang rendah
  

SENARIO

• Terdapat di mana-mana dalam persekitaran kita


• Di rumah : disukai oleh ahli keluarga terutamanya si ibu kerana banyak membantu dalam melaksanakan kerja-kerja rumah tangga seperti memasak, mengemas, menghias rumah dan menjahit.


• Di sekolah, pelajar dalam kategori lelaki lembut ini di sukai oleh guru-guru kerana ringan tangan membantu guru dalam apa juga keadaan


• Pelajar-pelajar perempuan selesa bergaul bersama pelajar lelaki lembut kerana sangat memahami dan menyukai aktiviti yang dilakukan oleh pelajar perempuan


• Institut pengajian tinggi : pelajar lelaki lembut ini mula mencari dan memasuki kumpulan yang sama “spesis”. Aktiviti yang dilakukan lebih ekstrem


• Mereka lebih berani menonjolkan identiti yang mereka mahukan. Contohnya menyimpan kuku panjang, mencabut bulu kening, memakai “lip gloss” untuk bibir, mewarnakan rambut, menyimpan rambut yang panjang mencecah bahu dan memakai aksesori wanita seperti gelang serta rantai.


• Alam pekerjaan :
  Mereka berpakaian seperti lelaki biasa tetapi masih mahu kelihatan feminin
  dengan memakai celak mata, cabut bulu kening dan berkuku panjang
  

ISU / CABARAN

• Perbincangan ini berfokuskan kepada lelaki lembut yang dilantik menjadi guru
  1) Adakah guru (lelaki lembut) ini akan mempengaruhi anak-anak murid dari segi penampilan dan perawakannya?
  2) Adakah guru ini boleh mengancam pelajar-pelajarnya?
  3) Ruang guru ini untuk mengambil kesempatan?
  4) Organisasi tempat guru tersebut bertugas. Adakah guru ini akan
  memberi imej yang tidak baik dan memberi kesan secara
  langsung dan tidak langsung terhadap reputasi sekolah.
  
  RAWATAN:
  


• Melalui sesi kaunseling


• Melalui spiritual


• Kumpulan sokongan yang mantap.
  
  KESIMPULAN
  


• Sungguhpun lelaki lembut ini anugerah tuhan, sesungguhnya anugerah itu perlu digunakan sebaik mungkin dan ke arah yang positif .


• Andainya kontra yang menjadi ikutan, tentunya impikasi guru lelaki lembut ini membawa persepsi yang negatif, idola / ikutan murid lembut dan boleh ke tahap mengancam organisasi
  
  Rujukan :


• Medilines Plus (http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medilineplus/print/ency/article/001527.htmzzz)


• Psychnet-UK


• http://www.psychnet-uk.com/dsm_iv/gender%20_identity_disorder.htm


• www.genderpsychology.org/mental_illness_model.html


• http://webhome.idirect.com/~beech1/GENDERID.HTM
  
  Ribuan terima kasih saya ucapkan kepada Pn. Normazwin atas kesudian untuk berkongsi maklumat tersebut dengan kami semua. Bless u.